Six days ago I lost my mother to congestive heart failure and my family and I are struggling during this time. We were allowed no viewing or funeral (due to Covid-19). Only a graveside burial for 10 or less people. I am a new member here and my goal was to be more active in the group make some scrapping buddies and get more inspiration and then boom! I don't know if anyone knows what it feels like to feel paralyzed and have anxiety at the same exact time but I have had it and its a living nightmare. I have spend time on Photoshop to get my mind off of this mess and I am humbly asking for prayers to lessen the pain we are living through. Thank you for listening or letting me 'chit chat'. Please be patient as i'm still learning the forum.. thx
I'm SO sorry for your loss, Angela. I can't even image not being able to properly mourn your own mother by not having a funeral. I have certainly heard of things like this, but you're the first person I've personally "known" who has not been able to have a funeral due to this horrible pandemic.
I hope you find peace and cyber friends here at DigitalScrapbook.com. Count me as one of them and I'm sending up prayers right now.
So sorry for your loss, even more so during these extreme times. CHF is a hard diagnosis, and if it brings you comfort (it did for me when my stepDad passed from cancer after a looooong slooooow battle) at least she is not in discomfort any longer. As a memory keeper, hold those close, and I do believe this is a great hobby to have during painful times. Hugs! Hang in there! We're here for you!
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and the struggles you are going through right now. Trying to focus on something creative to keep your mind off everything is a therapy of sorts and one of the best things you can do in this situation. Again I am so sorry for everything you are going through, sending you virtual hugs!
So sorry to hear of your loss! It's especially difficult without the usual closures that come at a time like this. Hugs!
So sorry for your loss Angela. I hope our community can help in a small way to bring you through this difficult time.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope in time you will find peace xo You're in my prayers.
Thank you all for your prayers and kind words!
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's really hard when you can't go say goodbye properly; my budget doesn't allow for much travel, especially on short notice, so I've done a few layouts as "scrap therapy" over the years in cases where someone passed away relatively suddenly. It usually works fairly well to help process through the grief and provide some sense of closure.
Maybe when the social distancing restrictions are lifted, you can have a memorial gathering for her?
Angela,
I am praying for you and your family. There is no easy time or easy way to lose a loved one, but especially so during a time like this. When my daddy passed away 9 years ago, it was one of the toughest things I'd ever had to deal with... until I lost my mom 4 years ago. There are no words that will take away the hurt, but I've got to say that time and sweet memories really do help.
I've spent a lot of time scrapbooking, working on genealogy, and intentionally making good memories with my family so when I move to Heaven they will have those happy memories like I do.
May God bless you, comfort you and keep you.
Nancy
oh dear Angela
My sympathy and prayers come your way.
I do understand. My father-in-law died in 2009, my son died in 2010, which is when we lost everything due to the economy, and my mom died of similar conditions as your mom in 2011. I felt like I had been dropped from an airplane without a parachute at times. Let yourself feel the pain so you don't get stuck in it so it doesn't end up defining who you are. I allowed myself to cry and tried to focus on what I had and not what I don't have when I wasn't. It's not easy but it does get easier. I realized for me that the deeper the pain I felt reflected the deeper love I had. It takes time and leaves big holes. {{{BIG HUGS}}}
@Angela I am so very sorry for your loss and that you are not being able to grieve completely in what naturally feels like the right way... due to the current situation of our world.
I do understand the crippling pain though and if you have physical or mental health issues yourself how they can seem to compound these situations (at least for me they always have). At thanksgiving 2012, my husband and I miscarried and less than a month later, we got a call his father passed (who had become like my own father through our 20 yrs especially since mine left when I was 9). While at my FILs funeral, my MIL got a brain aneurysm that burst that night and went in to hospice after 3 days of different surgeries and passed 7 days after my FIL. We then had to go home 12 hours away from the rest of all our family and TRY live a "normal" life alone.
I can't imagine how you must feel not having that time with her before at the end and then not even a real funeral visitation with all the loved ones to hug and support you telling wonderful memories and stories. I pray soon that everything can get back to normal so you can have your "special people" in your life come by and give you hugs and take you out for coffee or lunch and support you through it. sending many prayers up. Love and Blessings
I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother. Grief is hard under the usual circumstances and under the present circumstances, it makes it harder. because you don't get to say goodbye the same way.
I've had diagnosed anxiety and depression and lost an adult child 5 years ago, so I think I have some idea of what you are currently going through. Although grief doesn't ever go away, it changes over time and becomes less "sharp" and less difficult to bear. Be kind to yourself, your grief is very fresh.
Your layout is stunning. What a wonderful tribute to her you've created.
Hugs.
Lifting you up in prayers. Although I can not relate to losing your mom. I did lose my 11-year-old 3 years ago to an accident on our farm. I know this is hard on you. The pain of losing someone so important to you will never go away and you will have a new normal. I will continue to lift you in prayers for the coming days and weeks.
I think that @Holly Wolf has expressed what I would also say, scrap Therapy (with as much journaling of your own thoughts and feelings as you can muster (tears during it are fine) is very helpful to the grieving process - for me, it was quite cathartic when I've lost love ones); Holly also suggests a memorial gathering of some sort once life is somewhat more to the norm we know. I found that asking your invitees to bring a photo and/or a story, to share about the deceased, can bring everyone closer through the shared love.
I personally believe it's a very difficult thing to lose one's mother, regardless of your age. MY mother died 18 years ago, this month, and I still miss her greatly, every day. Allow yourself to grieve, it's necessary.
I'm so sorry for your loss & sending hugs and prayers to you and your family.
I am so sorry to hear of your sad loss Angela. certainly is paralysing...but Jesus can comfort you and keep you safe from harm, including fromanxiety issues getting worse. Virtual hugs, and know that others care. you will get through this.
Oh Angela, I am so sorry for your loss.
@Angela, Still praying for your sweetheart that things are getting better each and every day. {{{huuggggs}}} & Blessings
So sorry for your loss. From my heart family to yours
Heavenly Father, Thank you for always being close to the brokenhearted. Jesus promised that those who mourn would be blessed with comfort. Lord, I lift up my sister Angela and her family into your gentle hands as they grieve the loss of someone so dear to them. Ease their hurt and encircle them with your love. Graciously provide for all their needs, both known and unasked. Holy Spirit, lead these, your children, mercifully through the coming days and help them see with faith and hope, beyond death, to life eternal. Hear my prayer, in the name of your Son and my Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen